We are all continually growing and developing, and we should be aiming to improve ourselves wherever we can. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and think that the way we are is the way we will always be. That’s not the case, and if you want to work on yourself, there’s no time like the present. Luckily there are plenty of experts who can help support and guide you through this process – here are the best self-help gurus to help you live your best life.
Although Marie Kondo has written four books on her organizing tactics, it is only in the past year, since Netflix made a show out of her method, that she has really blown up. The concept is simple, to only keep things in your life and your home that spark joy. Anything else should be thanked for its service and thrown away. Marie has such incredible energy, perhaps getting rid of our belongings can help us be the same!
One thing that David Burns’ book, Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, has above any other self-help book, is that psychologists have studied its effects and been found to be as effective as prescription medication or psychotherapy on people who are depressed! The method takes a cognitive behavioral therapy approach and works on those automatic thoughts which can cause negative emotions.
One of the most famous self-help books is The Power of Now (celebrity fans include Paris Hilton who actually took the book to read in jail!), and the concept is pretty simple – living in the present, rather than fixating on the past or future. There is a lot of influence from Zen Buddhism in the text, but Tolle tells of his own story, going from being near to taking his own life to where he is today.
If you are skeptical of some wishy-washy self-help gurus, you may want to check out Sonja Lyubomirsky’s work. As a psychology researcher at the University of California, she wrote The How of Happiness which is based on actual studies and shows the effectiveness of various techniques.
Another self-help classic, Fear the Fear and Do it Anyway is something a little different. Instead of trying to live the perfect life, and feel happy and motivated all the time, the best way is to live alongside any emotions, as we have only limited control of them, and it is better to do this and carry on with what we want to do, than try to force positive emotions.
Tony Robbins is famous for an exercise in which he gets participants to walk barefoot across hot coals during his (costly and sought-after!) seminars. If you can’t quite afford to attend one of his seminars, check out one of his books, such as Awaken the Giant Within, where he aims to help you to take control of your life.
Nobody is perfect, but that doesn’t mean we can’t all strive to be better. So, make like these gurus and aim to invest in yourself a little!