Breakups are probably one of the most harrowing and soul crushing things you’ll go through in the span of your lifetime.
This is because the heartbreak that normally accompanies them is the kind of emotional pain that’s more than capable of crushing you, rendering you incapable of almost anything. Romantic relationships are thought of as matters of the heart, but when heartbreak strikes, it affects how everything works – your heart, mind, and body. It’s therefore very important to make sure that you do not let this phase overwhelm you, that it does not bring your life to a complete standstill. The challenge is that getting over a breakup is not all that easy.
Moving on with your life is going to be a battle that you should fight wisely if you hope to win. While heartbreak, disappointment, and a host of other negative emotions tied to breakups cannot be completely avoided, they can be subdued, thereby speeding up your recovery process. Most people resort to unhealthy means to deal with their emotional pain, and as a result they do not really get over their lost love. By taking things step by step, you’re assured of coming out on the other side much fresher. Here are some helpful ways to get over a breakup in good time and move on with your life.
1. Cut off all contact with your ex
It’s time to move on, and to do that you need to separate yourself from your past and focus on your present. Cutting off any kind of contact with your ex should be the first step you take to ensure that you get over a breakup. This even means deleting their phone number. If you keep in contact with them, interaction between you two will only reopen wounds, and you might even say things you might regret later. No contact means space, and you’ll be able to deal with things better when you have distance.
2. Take a break from social media or block them
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to keep up with your social media accounts, but there’s a big possibility you’ll end up stalking their accounts and pages if you log into Facebook, Instagram or any other platform. Even better, you can simply block them and still continue enjoying social media without them appearing anywhere on your news feed. It’s very tempting to keep tabs of them at this time, but this should be avoided as much as possible as it will keep dragging your mind to the past and you won’t recover.
3. Stay busy
This is the easiest way to make sure that you don’t spend days upon days wallowing in self pity and other negative emotions. If you keep yourself occupied, you’ll find that the day moves along quickly, and you don’t have the time to think about your failed relationship. Find activities to fill all the free time you have now that you’re not in a relationship. The more you don’t think about it, the faster you get over it.
4. Be patient
Unfortunately, a heartbreak does not go away as fast as it comes. This means you should not expect a miracle. It’ll take time to heal, so don’t be in a rush or feel that there’s something wrong with you. Give yourself enough time to process your situation, deal with feelings and overcome everything. Do not go rushing into another relationship as it will likely be a big mistake. Just take your time and at the end of it all, you’ll be even better than you were when you got into the relationship.